Okay this lady is amazing! She is one of those people that you are just drawn to and you want to be around all the time. She is such a fun and happy person I had to share her with all of you. Meet my February Mom: Debbie Wheeler
Tell me about your family.
Leslie...What can I say, I love my little family! Jason and I have been married for 12 years. We met in a bowling class at Weber State University (which is hilarious, I know). The very first thing that I found so attractive about him was his sense of humor. Jason makes me laugh from the gut on a daily basis, and I have abs of steel to prove it. He is so good with our girls, and they adore him. He is one of the most likable beings on the planet. If you've ever had the privilege to meet him, I'm sure you would agree. (I agree!!!)
Quinn is 6 years old and she is my sweet, lovable, caring, accepting, compassionate girl. She is very smart and loves to dance in her ballet class. She is very social and makes friends everywhere we go. There is always a new "best friend", even if they have only known each other for 10 minutes.
Raegan is 4years old and she is my energetic, spontaneous, playful, loving, independent girl. She is extremely bright and very hilarious! I'm pretty sure she gets it from her dad. She lights up a room and in moments, has everyone in tears from laughter.
What's your favorite thing about being a mom?
The love that you feel when you are with your children. I realize that I have young children and they haven't hit that age where they are embarrassed to be seen with me yet. With that said, I am trying to savor the moments when they blow kisses after I drop them off from school or when they cry for me when they are hurt.
It's a wonderful feeling to have someone who needs you more than anything on the planet. You are the center of their lives. I just feel so much love in those precious moments.
Funniest mom moments?
Getting a phone call from a neighbor telling me that my daughter was peeing on the lawn in the buff.
Changing a diaper and getting sprayed from head to toe with poop.
Frantically running around Target looking for my lost daughter only to realize that I have been holding her in my arms the entire time. (I totally relate to this one!)
And the list goes on and on…
What do you all do for fun?
We love movies and my girls love to play video games with their dad. We are basically nerds. I love to throw on loud music and dance with them. We also love painting, drawing, coloring and crating art projects together.
We live to vacation! Disneyland is one of our favorite destinations on the planet. My girls love to dress up, paint their nails and be all girly! Personally, I like the boy toys, so I'll I sneak a few swords, superhero capes and Skeletor dolls in their toy box.
Hardest moment in motherhood?
Jason and I lost a baby boy two years ago. I was 18 weeks along. The first time I felt him kick was amazing because I felt it so much sooner and so much stronger than with my girls. I know now that it was his way of saying "I'm here mom, don't forget me". We named him Beck, and he is just as much a part of our family as my girls. When people ask me how many children I have, it is difficult for me to say two, because in my heart, I know we have three. I know that he watches over his sisters from heaven and will help them throughout their life. He is our special guardian angel.
Proudest moment in motherhood?
I am always so proud when my girls accomplish something that is very difficult for them: learning to tie shoelaces, giving a talk in front of a group, building up courage to go on a roller coaster, admitting when they are wrong and being willing to apologize. When a challenge presents itself, it is common to hear such replies as: "I can't do it", "I'm afraid", "I'm not strong enough", "I'm not old enough" and "I'm not good enough". Often these replies are accompanied with tears and sorrow. It saddens me to hear them talk about themselves that way, but I am overcome with joy when they decide in their mind and heart that they are strong enough, brave enough and good enough. And when they follow through, the look on their face is priceless. I love to see the confidence in their eye's and that beaming smile of accomplishment. I am the total nerd mom that sheds tears of joy when my daughter ties her shoe's for the first time. I can't help it.
What's the best advise you can give to other mom's?
Trust your own motherly instincts. People will give you advice and what works for them doesn't always work for your specific situation. You know your children better than anyone, including your neighbor, co-worker, or stranger on the street. Every kid is built differently and no one is more qualified than you to handle their individual needs. Trust your instincts. Be confident in yourself.
What gets you through your hardest days?
Laughter! Learn to laugh at yourself! Being a parent can be incredibly difficult at times but there is so much comedy to be had in the disaster! Laughter has always been my coping mechanism, especially in the really, really hard times of life.
What have you learned from being a mom?
This whole mother thing has taught me a greater appreciation for my own mom. I now look back and cringe at certain choices I made. I wish I could go back in time and erase the way I treated her at times. My eyes have been opened to all the amazing things that my mom accomplished. She has always been my hero, but now being a mother myself, I have nothing but purest of respect for her. I can only hope to be even half as amazing as she was. She passed away exactly one year before Quinn was born. I can't tell you how many times I wish I could pick up the phone and tell her how much she means to me and how thankful I am for all that she sacrificed. She is my light and my example. She taught us to believe in ourselves and to love unconditionally. She is the one who taught me to laugh. My mom always said, "If you're not having fun, it's your own fault". Words to live by.
Debbie, I LOVE YOU! Thank you for being my mom of the month and sharing with all of us. By the way, basically all the art on her walls is done by her. Her style is so bold and fun...I absolutely LOVE it!!